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let’s skip the mommy wars

She has that look — a shell of the formerly vibrant, social woman clinging to her last rope, reaching for a shred of hope as the overwhelming waves of chaos crash toward her again.  I know it well.  She’s usually in the back row of my parenting presentations, or quietly listening at the moms’ social [...]

speak for yourself

Ever since I quit my full time job (when child #3 was born), I’ve had trouble answering that common question:
What do you do?
For an embarassingly long time I would answer some variation of “I’m a stay home mom, but I used to do something important. . . ” (well, not exactly that, but it crossed [...]

too much to ask?

Perhaps I should have paid more attention. 
I knew becoming a mother would change me, and yes, I had nine months or so to prepare for it, but no. . .I don’t think we’re ever quite prepared for the impact of motherhood.  It hit me hard on day one.
I gave birth at my workplace.  It’s not [...]

will the real me please stand up?

I might be having an identity crisis. 
It hit me in the midst of an amazing Vienna Teng concert at our local hot spot The Ark, for so many different reasons. 
Vienna’s performance moved me.  She’s so talented, so sharp, so lyrical and poignant–you MUST check out her music.  She sings of intimate personal issues as well as major [...]

in the beginning

When I started this site a few months so very long ago, I wrote a few foundational posts on the key words of my byline:  reflections on family, faith and the flux of life.  At that time no one was around to read them, so I thought I’d start the new year fresh with a [...]

On flux

What do I mean by “flux of life”? 
From the Free Online Dictionary:
flux (flks) n.  1. a. A flow or flowing.  b. A continued flow; a flood.  2. The flowing in of the tide
A few years ago I read a book called Flux:  Women on Sex, Work, Love, Kids and Life in a Half-Changed World [...]