Comments on: let’s skip the mommy wars

By: Ann Kroeker

Ann Kroeker — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 04:09:48 +0000

I really like the idea at the end–what if people really did sit in the back row next to that man or woman and listen? We all have a story. What if we would truly listen to understand, appreciate, commiserate, and encourage?

Also, I love how you followed this post up with the next one, offering specific things we could say to a friend or even to a mom we don’t know who happens to be having one of those moments.

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By: pam

pam — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:49:01 +0000

Cha Cha, you are definitely not alone! I think it’s time for all of us to admit it and turn in another direction. Thanks for chiming in.

By: Cha Cha

Cha Cha — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:50:23 +0000

Amen, I love this. I go from a day of almost thinking I’ve got it together straight to a bluubering mess in less than a day. But I know I have been judgemental of other mom’s, I hate admitting it, I don’t want to be this person. I want to shower people with Gods grace and love. Thanks for this post, I needed to hear these words.

Cha Cha

By: pam

pam — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 21:49:54 +0000

Jessica,
Thanks so much for your feedback! It always suprises me how much time we women spend justifying our choices by one-upping each other. I’ve lived the lives of a full time working mom with two kids in day care, as well as a stay at home mom, and there are certainly benefits and challenges to both worlds. It’s tough enough to find the right balance.
Let’s turn things around by doing our part wherever we can.
Thanks again!

By: Jessica Lyon

Jessica Lyon — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 20:43:10 +0000

Amen! Thank you for these soothing thoughts. I have a 2-year old and honestly, before I got pregnant I was looking forward to not having to be in competition anymore (I don’t know where I got this notion…) I thought that once I became a mom, I would join a group of women that were supportive and loving and accepting and while I have found that I found it incredibly overwhelming how critical and competitive mothers were: are you breastfeeding or giving formula? are you staying home (gasp) or going back to work (gasp)? do you have a nanny or a daycare? do you make your own babyfood or buy that jarred junk!? It was/is mind-boggling! I am grateful to have joined a few small groups of women that are strugglers like me, imperfect like me.

Dena: I also loved the term “Community of Grace” and hope that I can not only benefit from one… but give back in one.

By: pam

pam — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 16:31:32 +0000

Catherine: Thanks for stopping by. This definitely is not the place to come if you want to meet someone who has figured everything out !

By: Catherine B

Catherine B — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 03:47:47 +0000

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. So often I run across blogs and websites where it appears everyone has it all figured out – the perfect life. I agree with you – reaching out to other moms in their time of struggle is so much more productive.

By: pam

pam — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:11:40 +0000

Thank you so much for your feedback, Lori!

Peter: I’m so glad you resonated with this post, and I love your ‘at-a-boy’ daily allocation idea. I’ll have to try that. So simple.

Heather: I totally agree–we need to hold each other up for the sake of ourselves, and most importatly, to model it for our children.

Dena: Thanks again. I’d love to catch up with some of your writing, and yes, all of us could use a little extra prayer for one another.

By: Dena Dyer

Dena Dyer — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:39:55 +0000

I love the phrase “community of grace.” I try to do that with my writing…it’s so important to stop judging each other for our choices and instead, pray for and encoruage one another. Parenting is so difficult, and each mother and family is different. Thanks for writing about this!