ten ways to re-frame parenting issues
No one knows all the answers, but sometimes asking the right questions gets us where we need to be.
These ten questions to re-frame parenting issues always stop me in my tracks and change my approach. Thomas and I closed Saturday’s parent workshop with this list by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller. Feel free to alter for your student/spouse/partner/friend as you see fit:
1. What if you saw your child as wounded or confused instead of wrong?
2. What if you saw the mistakes your child makes today as a learning opportunity?
3. What if you saw the behavior your child is exhibiting as age appropriate?
4. What if you saw your child today as unfinished and simply on the road to becoming who he or she is going to become?
5. What if you saw your child’s behavior as a cry for help?
6. What if you saw your child today as a child of God?
7. What if you saw your child as a teacher who is offering you a lesson?
8. What if you saw your child’s behavior as perfect for helping him learn what he needs to learn right now?
9. What if you saw your child for who she is rather than who you want her to be?
10. What if you saw your child as being in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing, right now?
If we’re having trouble finding the answers. . . have we asked the right questions?
Make it a great week!