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Macro musquito“Mom, what’s good about mosquitos?”

My kids ask this on a regular basis, because I taught them to look for a good purpose for everything.  We’re still debating what purpose mosquitos serve beyond spreading disease and feeding bats.  Of course, I do understand natural selection, and the mosquito question is one of the smaller evils that can stump us, but I still think it’s a valuable exercise.

One of the keys to cultivating gratitude is finding the gift in all things.  Sometimes it’s not so easy, buGiftt developing this simple habit can transform challenges into opportunities.  I’m still working on this.

Just imagine, hypothetically, that you are overwhelmed with things to do, and your daughter begins to complain of a sore throat.  And a headache.  Her temperature registers 99.9 degrees.  What’s a mother to do?  I know, all of you good mothers out there would sacrifice everything to take care of your precious girl.  Me, the evil mom?  I waffle.  Motrin (the wonder drug) would buy me a few hours of productivity, but I really shouldn’t spread this bug around.  Solution?  Look for the gift.  My daughter is presenting me with a gift:  a rare chance to spend time nursing, caring, and sharing our day one on one.  Now, I can view the day as a precious gift rather than a sacrifice.  You wonderful parents might do this naturally, but sometimes I need a little guidance.  My mantra:  find the gift

Here’s another timely example.   While the economy falls into the tank, many of us depend upon industries that are careening right down with it.  Expenses increase while job security is threatened.  What to do?  Find the gift.  We might have to dig deep, but finding a tiny gem can help.  When we cut our income a few years ago, I found a gift in discovering our true priorities.  The losses didn’t disappear, and sometimes I obsess over those too.  But when I focus on finding the gift, I transform my perspective

I know my problems are miniscule compared to many greater challenges.  But whether minor mosquito annoyances or life’s bigger issues, finding the gift has helped lighten my load.

What about you?  Could you find the gift in one of your challenges today? 

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Creative Commons License photo credit: w e n d y,   Bashed

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6 comments to finding the gift

  • LOVE this POST. Thank you. So well said. This is the second post in a row I’ve read today about keeping perspective in these times. The bigger picture. The beautiful things. LOVE it. Did I say that a lot? Sorry, but I LOVE it.

    I don’t know if this is just silly, but for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how to comment here, since you have to go back up to the top and click the title of the post and then scroll back down for the window to show up. I might just be slow, but I wonder if other people have the same confusion? Just thought I’d throw that out there :)

  • pam

    re: Motrin, “the wonder drug”
    I had no clue about the controversy over Motrin’s recent ad campaign and babywearing. For the record, I’m all for babywearing–and generic ibuprofen works just as many wonders

  • Michelle at Scribbit

    Okay the mosquito debate would be hot here–I don’t know that I could see the good in that one :)

  • You’re absolutely right, and you manage to write about seeing the good without sounding at all Pollyanna-ish.

  • That’s such great advice! I have to admit, finding the good in things does not come easily for me. It does take a decision on our part to search for it.

    Don’t you wish you could just put on a pair of glasses in the morning that would let you see everything through God’s eyes? It sure would cut back on my whining! My husband would probably buy me several pairs for when I lose one! LOL!

  • [...] now, I look for the gifts.  So far, this really isn’t as bad as I thought it might be.  It’s in a localized [...]

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